Olive Stew - a blog about LOVE

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2011-01-23T00:29:00.000-08:00

The dump. Sometimes it's inevitable. Sometimes a suprise.
It sucks.
But if it's unavoidable what is the proper protocol? Experts weigh in.

The dumped give advice on how they think they should be dumped.

Scene from Adaptation

2011-01-23T00:05:00.000-08:00

Charlie: There was this time in high school. I was watching you out the library window. You were talking to Sarah Marsh.
Donald: Oh, God. I was so in love with her.
Charlie: I know. And you were flirting with her. And she was being really sweet to you.
Donald : I remember that.
Charlie : Then, when you walked away, she started making fun of you with Kim Canetti. And it was like they were laughing at *me*. You didn't know at all. You seemed so happy.
Donald: I knew. I heard them.
Charlie: How come you looked so happy?
Donald : I loved Sarah, Charles. It was mine, that love. I owned it. Even Sarah didn't have the right to take it away. I can love whoever I want.
Charlie: But she thought you were pathetic.
Donald: That was her business, not mine. You are what you love, not what loves you. That's what I decided a long time ago.
Donald: Whats up?
Charlie: Thank you.
Donald: For what?

sure hope love finds me again.

2011-01-16T16:46:00.000-08:00

WELL MY NAME
IT MEANS NOTHIN'...

MY AGE
IT
MEANS
LESS

(BEND)

and
the country
I come from is called
the midwest.....

well...

1st time alone
in adult life...

suppose
it serves it's purpose....

Done my time....
now
think I've had
enough

Can't some sweet pretty momma
take a chance on me ?...

cause I ain't so bad....

Anyway,
I am
an outdoors oriented
athletic
active
type.....

skiinghikingtennisbiking
(in decent weather)....

but
playing
music
comes 1st..

Make my living as an architect/ artist.....
have lived & worked abroad for over a decade...
multi-lingual...
and choose to be here now...

sure hoping love finds me again.

If you like what you see....
1ST
send me your pic
and you can call or text me ...

five two o - four o four - o four one two

(nocommercialentitiesorlinksitesPLEASELocation:BENDit'sNOToktocontactthisposterwithservicesorothercommercialinterestsMYNAMEITMEANSNOTHIN'...MYAGEITMEANSLESS(BEND)

PostingID: 2163928443
http://bend.craigslist.org/m4w/2163928443.html

loveorlust- 32 - Crooked River

2011-01-08T08:20:00.000-08:00

5'9", 150 lb., trim, athletic, easygoing, openminded, in search of a friend/ a lover.

I prefere petite

Location: crooked river

it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests

http://bend.craigslist.org/m4w/2149843688.html

lost a small chicken this morning and cried

2011-01-08T08:13:00.000-08:00

I am looking for
a man
that is
honest,
fun,
helpful,
loves to travel,
loves dogs
and is looking
for
someone to care for.

I am a professional
woman
who has not been with
a man
for
years
and am now ready to start
dating
again.

I love the holidays
and
lost a small chicken this morning
and cried.

If I sound like someone
you would like to know,
th
en
send
me
a
picture.

Location:
Bend
Oregon

it's

NOT

contact t

his pos

ter wit

h services or ot

her com

mercial in

terests

PostingID: 2145361541
http://bend.craigslist.org/w4m/2145361541.html

Kicking & Punching

2011-01-08T08:03:00.000-08:00

Talking to Tami today in the kitchen she said,
"Remember that DJ I was telling you 'bout 'while back?"
The one who his girlfriend STAYED THE NIGHT with her ex-husband after she DRANK too much?"

I remembered. She had asked me to take his number when he was on the rebound.

"He went BACK to that girl. She's been BEATING him up. They got into an argument and she was KICKING and PUNCHING him."

This story, the one about the toxic couple reuniting, has been told too many times for me to be shocked, especially someone I've never met.
Lately, however, I've been trying to figure this love stuff out.

"What is with that?" I say, voice in the pitch of frustrated understanding.
"Y'know, being so afraid of loneliness that we'd rather be in an abusive relationship than by ourselves?
What is it about loneliness that is so horrible?"

The question is not rhetorical. I want more than anything to know.
A lot of people probably wonder.

Tami shoots back an answer.
"It's not the loneliness. It's the HABIT.
A person gets USED to all the VIOLENCE and DRAMA in their life. When it's gone they LOOK for it. They MISS it. It's been a part of their life for SO LONG they don't know what to do with out it."

I apply this to every one of my relationships and replace violence and drama with emotional withdrawal and co-dependency.

Comicfy

2011-01-05T20:28:00.000-08:00

A mean game of Super Mario Bros.

2011-01-04T18:41:00.000-08:00

Sweet and caring Christian looking for LTR - 63 (Atmore)

I'm posting an ad for my Grandmother and I'm her Grandson, She has a dance she is wanting to go do at the American Legion and is looking for a date. She's a great woman that gives way too much of herself to everyone around her so much so that I'm sure she feels forgotten about. She is a widow and has been for almost 15 years I believe. I know she loves to travel, good movies, great food (she's a great southern cook), and can play a mean game of Super Mario Bros., I also know that God is a big part of her life, so no heavy drinkers, smokers, or just overall perverted or abusive people, so if this sounds like someone you would like to get to know and you think you could treat her with respect, by all means shoot me an email and i will get you two in touch, (she doesn't use computers that much)

http://pensacola.craigslist.org/w4m/2132009562.html

LTR

2011-01-04T15:28:00.000-08:00

LTR = Long Term Relationship.

I just learned that.

an a nightie

2011-01-03T17:28:00.000-08:00

Lordofxtc - 42 (Greene County Ms/Mclain)

Looking for
a med to petite
lady
21 to 40
no kids
an
willing to relocate
an
able to have children

i have lots of dreams
an
fantsys

ive been single
since
june
17th
2007
cause im saveing myself for the right lady

i wanna try things with a woman like you

wearing a nightie
an
romance
with candles.

I imagine me an you
going on a picnic
into the forest

you wearing a sun dress
an
a pair of sandles
an
a bottle of wine

an a nightie the kind with the straps that will dangle

wow
under the stars at night

are in the sun on a blanket
yes thats my dream
an
your my desire..

Messege me if you wanna lifetime of pleasure & Fullfillment

seeing whats out there - 18 (fargo-moorhead)

2011-01-03T17:16:00.000-08:00

hi my name is mike im a sweet loving and caring guy im love sports football is my favorite i also like the outdoors i like to hunt and fish my family is my world im looking for a girl that will like me for my sense of humor and personality someone that likes to cuddle on the couch and watch tv or movies if you think you are my match you can txt or call me at 218 four four three 331seven or email me put your favorite color in the subject box so i know your real

My love affair with whiskey - Heather Kennedy

2011-01-02T13:17:00.001-08:00

My love affair with whiskey stemmed from a deep, black loneliness in the winter of 2006. The kind of loneliness where you sleep on your couch with the TV on every night because your bedroom is just so empty. I learned that whiskey warmed me from the inside out, like a thick hug and a shoulder rub.
Pretty soon, whiskey and I were hanging out all the time, spending every night together. Whiskey was my right-hand-man. He made me bold and fearless. He made me want to show my cleavage, fight bad guys and drive real fast. When I was at work, I missed whiskey and thought about him all day. I couldn't wait to get home to his embrace again. Whiskey made being alone...okay.
But whiskey wasn't made of roses and chocolates. Whiskey abused me. He was destructive. Some days, I woke up wanting to die. Whiskey hurt my organs and made me sick with stomach acid and blood. I couldn't eat, I lost weight. I went to the doctor and asked her to fix me, so I could drink whiskey again. But the damage was done.
In the end, all I was to whiskey was a cheap date. I guess whiskey needed his freedom, didn't want to be anchored down. I was too clingy. He moved on, as did I. When I look back now I know it was for the best.

One very special woman wanted - 49 (New Jersey)

2011-01-02T13:09:00.001-08:00

Please put "I GET IT" in your response so I know you are real and you have completely read this post.
I will NOT sign up for third party sites - DONT ASK
Married - My wife of 20 yrs has a very serious incurable illness. (NO BULLSHIT)
I have a full time, live in, professional caregiver for her, 24/7!
For the past 7 years I have been missing the company of a woman.
I would like some female companionship, once in a while.
Dinner, a movie, casino, a weekend getaway, let's get acquainted and see what happens!
I'm still young, normal, and healthy.
It's been a long time.
I am hoping to find one special lady who might have the same type of problem, or similar, who also misses that man woman thing!
Brown hair, blue eyes, 6'1, 215, very outgoing personality.
Please put "I GET IT" in your response so I know you are real and you have completely read this post.
Looking forward to meeting you.
YOUR PICTURE GETS MINE!

The Various Lover's of Ashuly

2010-12-31T19:38:00.000-08:00

Not in chronological order, but close. Starting from most recent.

Paco: 1 1/2 - "lights my heart of fire." Part German Shepherd, Healer and perhaps a little Corgi.

Paco's Dad or "Little Irish": 27 - Work together, thoughtful, snowboarder, laid back, is in San Francisco right now.

"Mud" 24: Lives in Mississippi, met in the park while playing football, went back to Mississippi at the end of the summer, proposed once. Girlfriend tried to friend on facebook.

Jemeeraqua 29: from the Bahamas. Long talk about trust and communication revealed he had another girlfriended and confessed to wanting both. Overbearingly sexual.

"Beautiful" 25: Smokes and sells weed, beautiful but not photogenic. Hiked Mount Bachelor together.

"Breathstopper" 27 from Flagstaff: Met at McMenamins while having a lonely Spanish coffee and he was having a lonely beer. Left to Texas.

"Punk Kid:" had a crush

Timothy: Kid Cudi wannabee from Eugene. Super cool, listens to cool music, wears cool clothes, says all the right words.

Wax 22: complex developed when he once claimed, "Jo Thorsen is the most beautiful women in the world." Tried to fufill that sterotype. Ended up not succeeding but ended complex when once he made me "unsad."

Firefighter Pisces 27 from New York: Wrote poems, had two kids. Considered the relationship because he was Italian. Alas.

Joe Luis Garcia 32: Met at Seven while dancing. Has three children even though one is not really his. Dated for a month and it didn't work out. Prayed a lot to not be sad and get over it.

Raw Foodie Boy 21: Did yoga and worked for Jem Raw Chocolates. Would talk about, "mind over matter," often and would fast and hike a mountain. Relationship was like two magnets opposing one another.
Friend of RFB also of the same name: Raft guide, had big fingers, manly man, grandpa-y. Stupid one night stand.
Other friend of RFB Trevor: One week crush that was ended when the decision was made to stop dating in the RFB circle of friends.

Bike Safety Guy, 20something: Dated for one hour while at McMenamins. Left him for Wall Street.

Rob from North Cal: Snowboarder. Went on a date on the pretense of discussing relgion and philosophy but just want to dump conspiracy theories. Decent cuddler, grew a secret weed garden under his half-pipe. Made great raw salads and never worked claiming there was a loophole in the Constitution which entitled him to government money. Went to see Avatar and ruined the movie by being emotionally distant. Moved to Colorado when government didn't give him his money. Does not have a facebook.

Tea Guy: Went hiking, wanted to "do it." Was asked to leave because of being uncomfortable. Good cook.

The-Guy-Who-Always-Wore-A-Hat 24: texted a picture of his penis.

B&N Barista, 22: Blatantly explained he, "didn't have time for frivolous relationships." Made mix CD's.

Mitch from New Jersey: Did not want to commit. Asked him, "why don't you use your tongue sometimes when you kiss?!" in public and he didn't talk for five minutes. Rich. Did nothing. Went out to expensive dinner dates.

Fruit Vendor, 22: Discussed marriage. Sold hard drugs, "but not meth." Not a soul-mate. Working a fruit stand in Portland.

Charlie 21: texted, "send me a pic of you naked."

Chimney Sweep: Had a crush on him when together. Great skateboarder, emotionally deep, doesn't like watching me dance in public. Really cute.

James Franco: huge crush on since Pineapple Express and Date Night.

Patrick Foster, 19 or 20: Not related to Max or Patrick. Cage fighter. Kissing was awkward. Played guitar and wrote his own songs. Once showed up at family's house without a shirt.

Tay: Dumb. Lingerer.

Nick Holgan: One date. Kind of dumb. Talked about building a future.

Anthony: Red hair. Met while dancing. Never made it to a third date.

Jade: 5 month long relationship. Did everything together. Has become reclusive recently.

Daniel: Made fish. Ruined the movie The Hangover. Always wanted to kiss in public.

Jackson: Cook at the mate shop. watched Rocky Horror Picture Show. Can't go to bars because he's too young.

Darrin: Pro Skateboarder. Looks like Lil' Wayne. Is in the tarp surfing Mt.Dew commercial. Met at Venice skate park. Sponsored by Rock Star Energy Drink.

Additional Commentary
Love at first sight is crap, we need to relinquish the storybook story from our romantic realities. Love is like yoga, you still do the downward dog even though you hate it.
It's important to be aware and attentive and to not go into love blindly.
For all the guys I've dated, thank you for taking me through what you took me through.

Jeffrey Brown

2010-12-31T15:29:00.001-08:00

Only love.

2010-12-31T15:17:00.000-08:00

All I had was love. No house. No car. No job.

She was drawing at the tea place and I didn't have any tea but I had a guitar and asked her what she favorite of the Seven Deadly Sins and she said, "greed."

So I played her the song I wrote about greed and told her she was everything that I wanted. I told her I had nothing because I was saving room in my life for her. I wanted only her and I didn't want anything to get in the way of that.

Intro

2010-12-11T00:37:00.000-08:00

"Olive stew," he mouthed to me.
But what it looked like was,
"I love you."

And the truth was, I loved him too.

He had said it over the table in science class.
I was in 7th grade.
Maybe 8th.

"Olive Stew," he had mouthed.

I was in love with Josh but I could love Mike.
Mike Hoffman.
Blonde hair and braces.
Probably liked Neggie, but she was dating Gavin so maybe I had a chance.

"What?" I say to Mike. (I love you, too)

He could tell I had swelled with some kind of feeling.
He could just tell.
Realizing the whole scenario in an instant.

That I loved him and that it made him uncomfortable.

"Olive stew, is what I mouthed," he explained.
A trick he had learned from somebody.
Mouth olive stew and it looks like you're saying, "I love you."

A dirty trick.

I once played a dirty trick.

No, actually it wasn't a dirty trick, I had meant it.

I told a boy I loved him.
Pulled him off to the side at work and told him.

And now I wanted him to know I loved him and he asked me if I was joking.

No, I was not joking, I said.

He said he'd get back to me.

Later that night I watched Across the Universe and was happy even though I didn't like that movie.

Two days later he brushed me off.
Over myspace.
With a fifth of that dirty banana flavored Jack Daniels whisky in my lap I had sobbed the entire night as my ex-boyfriend who hadn't moved out slept in my bed in the next room.

I had slept on the couch and ran 5 miles at 6am the next morning.

I'd like to say I moved on.

Asked him for all my presents back. The painting. The hemp necklace. The zine I had made just for him.

He left the place we worked and deleted me on myspace. Heard he finished his novel. About talking animals that can travel in time. Takes pictures of himself shirtless in mirrors.

"Olive stew, is what I mouthed," is what I should've told him.